Pet Loss Support
The Grieving Process
But one day, that constant will become one of our losses. And when the kind face and acceptance we used to turn to are gone, where do we go for comfort?
One of the most difficult and important parts of grieving and loss is seeking to understand what has happened and that what you are feeling is all right. Your sense of loss may encompass your life, and that is all right. You have the right to grieve, and you can take as much time as you need. In a busy and demanding world, the trick is to take the time.
There are many stages of grief, and none of them are absolute. Time frames vary from person to person. Generally, the stages include:
3. Bargaining (often with God)
Ideally, these sages are supposed to progress from stages one through five in a predictable fashion. But often, this just doesn’t happen. Many don’t go through all of the stages, and almost everyone will be thrown back into and out of these stages before the healing truly begins. You may find yourself very close to resolution when a memory or anniversary of your pet’s passing knocks you back into the anger or denial stage. Not only is this understandable, but it is also a fact of life. Give yourself time.
If you feel that time is passing too painfully for you or you want some very special and caring support, there are many sources of support available to you.
Remember, with time your pain will lessen, and the wounds of despair will heal. You will never forget your beloved pet; the many happy memories will always be with you.
The University of Florida offers a Grief Support Hotline plus some articles on coping with pet loss.
Tufts University offers a Grief Support Hotline and articles regarding the loss of a pet.
World by the Tail—The makers of the Clay Paw offer a thorough website discussing memorialization and many aspects of pet loss.
One of our long-time clients has a website, www.griefandpetloss.com. It mainly deals with the loss of our human companions and loved ones; however, Christine also has a very well written section on pet loss.